My strategy for telling my close friends and family about my plan to
move abroad was to warn them about a year in advance. The idea was to
give them time to accept the idea, knowing that some might never accept
it. Overall, I think this strategy was better than telling them at the
last minute, since I'm imagining some of them panicking in that
scenario, and possibly acting to prevent me from carrying out my plan.
Time will tell to see if they do this still.
Like Roosh, my mom is having the hardest time with my plan. She
obviously wants me to stay in the US, likely because she sees herself -
and thus me - as a beneficiary of the (increasingly) liberal and
(formerly) prosperous US culture, over her former, more conservative and
(formerly) less properous Asian culture. Thanks to Roosh, I can expect
my mom to also figure I'll just come back in a few months or years, in
spite of any evidence to the contrary.
My dad is neutral on my plan. Unlike my mom, he's the one who took the
big risk coming to the US, obviously before the days of the Internet and
relatively inexpensive plane tickets (so all he basically knew was that
it was a rich white country that hopefully wouldn't lynch him if he was
careful). His family was neutral to unsupportive of him coming to the
US, because in their eyes, things weren't that bad in their country. His
foresight about how over-competitive his country was to become from a
job perspective ended up benefiting those family members who had been
neutral to unsupportive of his move in the past, since he was able to
help them come to the US a decade or so later. I think he understands
that since he hasn't had my experience in today's world, he can't say
whether the move is good or not. But if there's one thing that I learned
from his experience, it's that it can pay to be an early-mover if
you're convinced of a foresight (in my case, the foresight that the US
is going to become over-competitive from a sex perspective).
Oddly enough, my married male friends are supportive of my move, while
my single male friends are neutral, at best. It may be that my married
male friends want to live vicariously through me, but it may also be
their way of warning me away from the trap that caught them. My single
male friends say I'm throwing away a great lifestyle, but I figure
they're simply ego-invested in the US ("All my dating work for scraps at
best? It can't be! They promised!").
What's even odder is that my single female friends (who I rarely hang
out with though) are supportive of my move. I guess since we don't want
to bang, they can freely admit that women have the upper hand to men
when it comes to banging, relative to other countries. They seem to
admit this the way that Sheryl Sandberg openly admits to hypergamy (bang
alphas when young, extract resources from betas when old). In both
cases, it seems they figure that enough males will go along with the
program anyway, even in the face of these traditionally unfavorable
admissions.
Obviously I haven't told anyone I directly work with, since they don't
need to know anyway. I'll just give them the standard two weeks notice
and say I'm taking time off to travel the world. That's an easy "lie" to
maintain since it's close to the truth. But I'll definitely not reveal
any neomasculine truths. I won't have anything to lose, but I can't be
bothered with the hassles, and I'll leave the neomasculine conversions
where they lie best - when the students seek the teachers.
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