Thursday, July 31, 2014

For Guys Considering Being a Father in the West

In your early Game days, you might think to yourself: "okay, if I just learn this Game stuff really well, maybe I'll find that needle-in-a-haystack girl here in the West that might actually be a good mother to my kids."

Or, maybe you've sworn off Western women for child-bearing, so you're thinking of importing a foreign women to the West.

In both cases, there's one more thing to consider:

What are the chances she'll be able to resist - not just for years, but for at least two decades - the ever-increasing temptations that the West will offer her?

Stop and think about that for a second. Think of the changes you've seen in the West in the past two decades: more YOLO attitudes, more selfishness, and above all, more embracing of these characteristics by society at large.

Now take that change and apply it forward. What do two decades in the future in the West look like?

Time will tell if these trends spread outside the West. The red-pill manosphere suggests that this is happening, but they also suggest that the level those trends are starting from is not as bad.

Your special snowflake might be better than the average Western woman at resisting these temptations. But this is the mother of your kids we're talking about here, and more importantly, the culture that will surround her. Do not take unnecessary risks.*

* Unless kids are more of an accessory for you - but as I understand, they're quite expensive.

Wednesday, July 30, 2014

You Are the Media You Consume

"You are what you eat" - it's a common English expression. Basically, it means if you eat fatty foods, you'll be a fatty. Conversely, if you eat muscle-bound foods, guess what? You'll be muscle-bound.

This idea also applies to the media you consume. Don't believe me? Enjoy this 3-minute experiment:

First, watch a little bit of this (maybe a minute):

Note how you feel. Don't try to describe it, just note the feeling.

Now, watch about a minute of this, and do the same:

Most likely, the first one makes you feel lovey-dovey, while the second one makes you feel driven. Now tell me, which one is more useful to you?

Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Hashing Out My Weekly Schedule

Lately I've been in a quandary.

There's only so many hours outside of my current 9-to-5 job to pursue both daygame and location independence. While I'm currently on track make it to location independence by June 2015, I'd like to be able to supplement the investment income I'll be living off with location-independent income if need be. In other words, I'd like to have a developed skill set to deal with contingencies such as slow stock markets, higher than expected expenses ... or even boredom.

My initial research suggests that freelancing on sites such as Elance may do the trick, given my skill set - but not overnight. As I understand, it takes time and effort to not only learn how to freelance, but to also build a reputation to the point where you're earning decent hourly rates. Last thing I want to do is to give my goodbye to corporate America, only to have to come crawling back because I wasn't prepared to generate a sufficient location-independent income on top of my investment income.

Am I being too conservative though? Even now, I'm in good enough financial shape to lead the life I want. So even if the stock market ends up being flat to today in June 2015, I'd still be fine. And it's not like even one bad year would put me in the poor house. It's just that I'd be dipping into my principle, which I could probably replenish by freelancing at that point. And before that even happens, I'd probably be regularly trying to make some money off my hobbies, with the hobby being the primary focus, and the money being just icing on the cake.

With all that being said, here's what I think my typical weekly schedule should be:

Monday - Friday, 9 to 5: Work
Monday, Wednesday, and Friday nights: Lift
Saturday and Sunday mornings: Errands
Saturday and Sunday afternoons: Daygame
Saturday and Sunday evenings: Hang Out w/Friends or Freelance
Tuesday night: Date, or if no Date, Freelance
Thursday night: Date, or if no Date, Daygame, then Hang Out w/Friends

Of course, the schedule will be adjusted for post-June 2015 location scouting visits. Those visits are the primary reason I'm still in corporate America.

Friday, July 25, 2014

Captain Obvious: Buyer Beware Applies to the Red-Pill Manosphere Too

Interesting exchange I just stumbled across on the Asian masculinity reddit:

3WH (presumably Third World Hero): "Your view on expat-pua? Specifically Asian-American men bringing PUA to Asia and becoming unstoppable poon machines?"

theasianplayboy (JT Tran): "It's too easy. When I went to Viet Nam, I was mobbed by tons of Vietnamese girls who could tell I wasn't a local Viet.

It's fun certainly, if you want to rack up those numbers. I've known a lot of PUAs who travel to the Philipines and similar to inflate their numbers.

However, while enjoyable, it isn't really conducive to long term growth and development as a person. None of those Asian village girls type have the kind of well-traveled, cultured, educated, and powerful personality than I'm looking for in a partner.

But sure, if you want to have fun, it's like shooting fish in a barrel."


No disrespect to JT Tran, but one has to remember what his incentive is - and that's to get you buying his products, and going on his expensive boot camps. Of course I'm not targeting JT Tran - this applies to anyone trying to sell you anything, red-pill manosphere or not. To think otherwise would be like expecting a car dealer in New York City to say you don't need a car to live in New York City.

Now I will say there's something to be said about improving yourself before going overseas, and not being a fat, poorly-dressed slob with bad social skills. However, I don't think one should spend too much time or money on it - losing yourself in Game or trying to buy your way with boot camps. Life is too short for that.

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Take a Look Around

What do you think is holding you back from the dating success you want?

I bet a few things came to your mind right off the bat. Maybe it's your height, your race, or other things you can't control.

I'm here to tell you those things don't really matter, because of one overriding factor.

Before I got into daygame, in my blue-pill total chode days, I thought my race was holding me back. I identify as an Asian-American male, so I just figured I was near or at the bottom of the dating totem pole; never mind that people thought I was Hispanic upon first meeting them.

Now I'm not going to say that daygame and the red-pill manosphere instantly turned me into a world-renowned player. But, I will say that it did make me aware of the following:

1) With enough work, nearly anything is possible. The question is: how much work are you willing to put in? How much is worth it - to you?

2) With dating options now available outside my multiracial social circle and outside work (which I'd never do), thanks to daygame, I was able to observe what you may have read about, but may not have internalized. It's the one overriding factor I mentioned earlier:

Male thirst is almost everywhere in the Western world, and it doesn't really discriminate.

Take a look around. Coming from a blue-pill perspective though, it won't be obvious. In my social circle, I saw it manifest in the following ways:

1) Okay-looking mid-20's white girl flirts with okay-looking mid-20's white guy for attention. Guy reciprocates. Girl dares guy to do something that may obviously injure himself. Guy is so thirsty he responds like a Pavlovian dog and does it without hesitation, injuring himself.

2) Late 30's white woman dates mid 30's white man, both okay-looking and decently-employed. Woman leaves man for a temporary career opportunity in a larger city.

3) Good-looking mid-20's white guy actually bothers to entertain a long-distance relationship with an okay-looking early-20's white girl. You know where this is going. Girl dumps guy.

I could list more examples, but for me, just observing firsthand the male thirst of these three decent white guys showed me how thirsty most men are in the Western world, regardless of the usual factors such as race, looks, etc. Granted, some men climb the mountain that is Game far enough to reduce or eliminate their thirst, but for most, the mountain is steep, and I'm afraid to say it's getting steeper with time. But I encourage you to take a look around when you think about what's holding you back from the dating success that you want, and see for yourself firsthand. Then, more importantly, don't whine or complain about it; take action. I don't know about you, but I'm planning on voting with my feet.

Monday, July 21, 2014

How Much Game is Enough?

In my opinion, one of the best sections of Krauser's book, Daygame Mastery, is the last one just before the postscript, entitled, "Special Situations 3: Care and Maintenance." Among other ideas, Krauser seems to speak from experience when he says three things:

1) Game can become addictive.
2) Game will not make you happy.
3) Only self-acceptance can make you happy.

In the past, when I read it, I understood it, but I didn't truly believe it. Game - addictive?! It was a chore! Well, at least until I did the first approach of a session. Then I'd always want more, since usually the first approach was just a warm-up one.

But now, things are starting to change. After a daygame session today, I still wanted more! Like a good school boy, I re-consulted Krauser's book on this developing addiction, but didn't quite find the answer I was looking for.

Should I keep feeding the addiction? On one hand, it's consuming more and more of my life. On the other hand, I'm not sure I have enough Game to be satisfied before I leave the West in June 2015*.

And that's when I thought of this analogy:

Game is like money.

Here's how the analogy works: you need an increasing amount of each to:

1) Live ($/G)
2) Be comfortable ($$/GG)
3) Feed the addiction for it, if you have one ($$$/GGG)

To further elaborate:

1) To live - a small amount of money/Game is required to function in society. With technology, this amount is shrinking, but at this point in human history, you still need to pay/talk to other human beings to eat and sleep.

2) To be comfortable - a higher amount of money/Game is required to be comfortable in society. Being only able to pay/talk enough to live is not enough to regularly sleep in a decent place / with decent women.

3) Feed the addiction for it, if you have one - ever-increasing amounts are required at this stage. As you go from places/women that are 5's, to 6,'s, then to 7's, etc., the money/Game required increases exponentially (not linearly).

So what's the answer after all this mental masturbation? Obviously it's the middle path - to be comfortable. Now what does that mean for my daygame? Now I get to put down a concrete goal for myself:

Now - approach machine: 1 date/month that passes the boner test (thanks Roosh)
Goal - intermediate: 1 lay/month that passes the boner test

* Leaving the West in June 2015 is a convenient month: it's when my lease ends, when I have one year in my new job, and most importantly, when I can be reasonably sure my retirement savings will last, in light of the recent bull market. I'll also be able to scout out destinations before then.

Sunday, July 20, 2014

The Shortest Post That Will Make Your Day

I just Googled "expat women dating." This shit is gold.

A Different Plan for Western Males: From Birth to Your 30's

The red-pill manosphere explains at length the challenges facing males in the modern Western world. I won't repeat anything they have to say in this post (Google is your friend), but here is what I propose as a guide for Western males.

In each stage of life, you'll be doing the following:

1) Stack enough paper to eventually leave the West
2) Be physically healthy and maximize attractiveness to women
3) Be mentally healthy and maximize attractiveness to women

What you'll be doing in each stage differs. Here's what I recommend.

Birth until Puberty
1) School
2) Playing outside
3) Being sociable

Pitfalls to avoid in this stage:
a) Playing video games

Puberty through High School
1) School/work (typically service industry employment - I recommend a customer-facing one to get used to dealing with people)
2) Lifting and playing on athletic teams
3) Learning and applying Game
New pitfalls to avoid in this stage:

a) Using porn, drugs, or alcohol
b) Developing one-itises
c) Spending anything but trivial amounts of work money on stuff that doesn't align with the three goals at the top of this post.
d) Getting into LTRs

1) Learning a money-making trade/major/business
2) Lifting and playing on athletic teams
3) Applying and refining Game
New pitfalls to avoid in this stage:
a) Choosing a location that doesn't align with the three goals at the top of this post (such as being too expensive, like a Manhattan penthouse, or conversely, being too repulsive to women, such as your mom's basement)

1) Stacking paper and scouting locations outside the West
2) Lifting and playing on athletic teams
3) Applying and refining Game
New pitfalls to avoid in this stage:
a) Getting married

30's: Leave the West.

Friday, July 18, 2014

Why I Decided Not to Do A Bootcamp (for now, anyway ...)

Recently, I struggled with the idea of whether or not to do a daygame bootcamp. When I started doing daygame over a year ago, I wasn't aware of any bootcamps near me, so I had to tackle beginner issues such as approach anxiety on my own, with only materials such as Roosh's Day Bang and's Blueprint to guide me. Now that I'm trying to go from approach machine to intermediate, which requires sub-communication competency (among other things), the thought of getting a master to help me became alluring - especially when held bootcamps here in the USA.

But then I read the following:

Choice quotes that were relevant to me:
"Success with women is based on habits, not knowledge or a few experiences."

"It takes time to learn. It doesn’t matter how much money you pay, money will not internalise what you need, money will not develop your skill, and money is not a shortcut."

There are other nuggets of wisdom in those posts, but these were the most relevant for me. At the end of the day, I decided that at this point:

1) I still know my sticking points, such as sub-communication, so the amount of money for a bootcamp would only be worth it if I didn't know them.

2) I should enjoy (or at least live with) the learning process. Stop being so needy that you're willing to spend lots of money for something you should've learned from experience and the much-lower-cost materials you already bought.

3) Learning to be good with women is like learning to be good at a sport or a musical instrument. Nobody would go on a football or guitar bootcamp and expect to learn much! Everyone's default there is to train regularly with some guidance, preferably a coach, but possibly just materials. Why is it different for daygame?

This leads me to believe that in the future, daygame will be taught in lesson format, instead of bootcamp format. Now there's a product idea ...