Here's a funny insight that can be applied to the difference between going abroad for love, and going abroad for sex, by the late Patrice O'Neal:
TL;DR (but funnier in the video clip):
"O’Neal challenged the women in the audience to tell him how they’d keep
their man if they’d lost their pussy. After hearing a litany of other
sexual acts from women in the audience, he points out that how is he
such a bad guy when every women who answered just 'classified yourselves
as a series of holes.'"